“Gifting To Oneself”

by: Jodie Picken CoAuthor
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From “The Reverse NeuroLinguistic
Programming Internet Series” ©2008

The general consensus suggests that the art of giving to ones self is, in essence, selfish behavior. The constraints of societal conditioning would have us believe that we would not only be selfish, but also greedy, thoughtless and self centered. So tell me… if one spends all their time giving to others in some, way shape or form, do they not, at some time, deserve something?

The necessity or need to please others, to give to others, to self sacrifice is endorsed. If this is endorsed for others, then why can we not endorse it for our own selves? Interesting is it not… give something to yourself, whether small or large, and start feeling guilty. Hey those well programmed thought patterns leap up and start blabbing about the need of others being so much higher then your own.

At this stage we begin believing others are more deserving, needier then ourselves. How have we allowed ourselves to be manipulated to such a degree that we have forgotten the importance of wholeness of our own being, to be holistically complete is quite interesting at best. If we are not complete within ourselves how can we effectively give, help and support others? How can we give something that we do not have to give?

The Mental Equivalent: Redefining Words

Lets get real here ok? Words have meaning and power, but their definition needs to be dealt with on a more feeling level and re-expressed at an Individual's level of feeling and or expression. Misunderstanding... can only happen in Art, Music, or the Entertainment Industry as a whole, when someone else's judgment pattern insist that "your just not quite doing that right or saying it right."Just because "Business" does it wrong dose not mean that those of us in Business seek to follow the trend of those before us who could care less about ethics, feeling, or the broader message. I'm gonna speak about what I believe in, as far as "flipping the switch." 

We begin this process of "flipping the switch," when we can get over the need to be right, and the need to think that some else has to be wrong, in order for us to be right. The real issue really is that (in this Country at least) we tend to have an US vs THEM attitude. As long as that prevails no words will ever break through that wall. Art suffers, and real communication fails dismally. The attachment of hurt and pain is too real in the so called  "meaning" of words, to have those kinds of walls to break down. Why? simply because the attachment to the words meaning doesn't go any deeper than the flesh wound.